Real Feast In a Kishlak

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Let’s celebrate a Pamir wedding that lasts 2 days.

Real Feast In a Kishlak

On the first day food is cooked. Women are washing rice for cooking pilau.

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Men are boiling meat

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Adding rice

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Neighbours have brought bread

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Bridegroom Jabbor. He’s a teacher in a university of Khogor. According to the Pamir tradition a bridegroom has to grow a beard before a wedding day.

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Bridegroom’s sister is embroidering a present for him.

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Father of the bridegroom

Real Feast In a Kishlak

His mother

Real Feast In a Kishlak

While the food is being cooked the guests are entertaining themselves by dancing.

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Finally the food is ready

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Women and men are sitting in different rooms, there is also a room for Aqsaqals.

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Traditionally pilau is eaten with hands

Real Feast In a Kishlak

They always cut remaining meat off from bones.

Real Feast In a Kishlak

The only drink is tea

Real Feast In a Kishlak

However there is a special secret room for those who prefer stronger drinks…

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Kids like to fight

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Meantime music and dances in the house…

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Real Feast In a Kishlak

.. that lasted till night…

Real Feast In a Kishlak

The next morning the bridegroom’s beard was shaved and he put holiday clothes on.

Real Feast In a Kishlak

With two friends Jabbor are on the roof to catch some arrow or something through the window, that’s what the tradition requires.

Real Feast In a Kishlak

The bridegroom and his delegation are ready to go to a kishlak Gundara, the remotest in the valley, for the bride. Some marks are applied on their faces…

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Real Feast In a Kishlak

In every kishlak they stopped to be treated to bakery and water. People hung a necklace made of apricot stones on Jabbor’s neck.

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Real Feast In a Kishlak

In a couple of hours they got to the bride’s kishlak.

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Snow flakes..

Real Feast In a Kishlak

The bride is let in

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Guests from various kishlaks, there’s an inscription on the wall – “Welcome!”

Real Feast In a Kishlak

After dances the bridegroom was taken to a dark warm room for a nikah (Muslim wedding ceremony). He finally met his bride there, all covered with a shawl.

Real Feast In a Kishlak

They make a wedding agreement and read a sura from the Koran.

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Listening to the text of the wedding agreement

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Then the bride is given bride-money, the agreement is signed. Now the newlyweds may be congratulated.

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Dances again

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Dancers are sometimes given money…

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Or presents

Real Feast In a Kishlak

All this time the bride is sitting separately from the bridegroom. Behind a special curtain first…

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Then without the curtain

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Grandfather of the bride

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Congrats

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Time to say good-bye

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Finale before leaving

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Real Feast In a Kishlak

The bride was embarrassed. To the right is their famous singer, local Michael Jackson as they say.

Real Feast In a Kishlak

The boys are carrying the dowry. Apart from it the bridegroom also got a sheep and a carpet.

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Finally the newly married couple can sit together

Real Feast In a Kishlak

Keep on dancing, with alcohol this time..

Real Feast In a Kishlak

The newlyweds are dancing

Real Feast In a Kishlak

The celebration ended late at night with a huge fight, in the morning everyone made their peace.

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13 thoughts on “Real Feast In a Kishlak”

  1. I hate religions were getting married is considered a shame for the bride and her family (becausr the man will enjoy her) so much that she has to hide her face out of embarassment… Gee, the soviets apparently haven’t civilized enough this remote part of the Union.

    • You’ve missed the point. The woman is so covered because she is now only his; in the same way you would protect a diamond… instead of flinging it around carelessly. And what you are calling shame is modesty; she blushes because of her virginity which is the gift of herself to him. You’re trying to turn something beautiful, chaste, and modest into something shameful yourself by asserting the hegemony of your own presumption and prejudice.

  2. Except for the fact that the Bride’s Father pays for all, and the bride is the CENTER of all attention (the groom dresses up and tries to look sober after the pre-wedding ‘bachelor party’), this is not so different from wedding in the U.S.

    Lots of food, drink, dancing, and a fight at the end!

    Love you, Kishlak!

    • I would rather say simple than primitive. In my opinion these people really have a different and more serious understanding of marriage as many of us. Actual statistics from Austria (where I live at the moment) show that 50% of the marriages end in a divorce. I don’t seed the need for a marriage in western countries anymore but in many societies its the combination of individual forces for a higher sake – the family.

      • good points Richard. one main reason western people get divorced because they are constantly looking for hot sex. marriage is about relationship ….not about sex.

  3. “With two friends Jabbor climbed the roof of the house to catch an arrow through the window.
    Finally the treatment is ready. Kids are entertaining themselves by fighting.” Love those translations.

  4. Some people get married jumping out of a plane, some underwater, others just go to the local registry office, as long as they both enjoy it and it has meaning to them what the heck, its their life. At least they wont live to regret it and will be able to show the photographs to their great grandchildren, unlike some of the weird weddings they have in the states.

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